It’s well known that bigger isn’t always better, and the same goes for penis size. The average penis is about five inches when erect, but this size varies widely from person to person.
What matters is finding pleasure in a variety of ways, and a small penis shouldn’t stop you from trying. Here are a few tricks to get you started:
1. Flexed doggy style
It’s often the case that men with a small penis can still achieve deep penetration and orgasm in any position that enables them to thrust hard and deep. As a general rule, however, positions that allow the curvature of the penis to more naturally follow the lay of the vagina are better. For this reason, rear-entry positions – like the flexed doggy style – tend to be ideal for those with a bent penis.
This position allows the partner to bend over and use their hands for support, but the pelvic muscles remain engaged to add friction that stimulates the G-spot. It also gives the partner the opportunity to reposition themselves throughout intercourse to get into different positions that feel good to them.
Another alternative is the cowgirl position. As with the flexed doggy style, this allows the person to shift their position to maximize the angle of penetration as they go along, but it also gives them the chance to reposition their body to change the rhythm and pressure of the climax.
Lastly, it’s worth trying positions that let the partners grind together, such as woman-on-top or even reverse cowgirl. This can stimulate the anal sphincter and boost feelings of arousal and satisfaction, especially if the climax is explosive or prolonged. Adding pressure with the hands and shoulders can help to enhance these sensations too.
2. Woman-on-top
Forget the Missionary Position; the woman-on-top sex position — also known as “cowgirl” — is responsible for more than half of all bedroom penile fractures. It’s also less effective than other positions for increasing friction and G-spot stimulation, which leads to orgasm. Luckily, there’s a safe way around this problem: a twist on the classic girl-on-top sex position.
To do it, have your partner lie down on the bed or table and raise her pelvis into a horseshoe shape so that each leg is at the same height with her back against the surface. Then, she can rock and grind against his pelvis while penetrating him from behind. This is one of the best sex positions for men with small penises because it maximizes deep penetration, and his pelvis is positioned in such a way that he can easily reach down and stroke her clitoris, which can lead to explosive orgasm.
If you want to add extra sensation, have her cross her ankles and put a little pressure on him with her knees. This tightens her vagina to increase friction and arousal. Likewise, he can try flexing or grinding his pelvic floor muscles to increase arousal and the feeling of a tighter vagina. And of course, both partners can use sexy lubricant to make it even more fun for all involved.
3. Swivel and screw
A man’s dick size doesn’t have to be a major sexual obstacle. Almost 9 in 10 Cosmopolitan readers who answered our survey said they don’t care about their partner’s penis length. Still, a small penis can make certain positions hard to do or less pleasurable than they would be with a larger member. But if you have some creativity, great communication and plenty of clitoral stimulation tools on hand, you can still achieve memorable orgasms between the sheets with your little bundle of joy.
One great way to spice up your sex is with an oral sex technique we call The Screw. To do it, your partner lies on the edge of a bed or couch with her legs pressed together and he stands or straddles her, penetrating from the side. This creates a nice snug fit for her head and allows him to enter the shaft at a twisted angle that may hit spots (read: G-spot) he’s never felt before.
Then he should move his head around, licking the frenulum in a corkscrew pattern as he moves up her shaft. Once he reaches her throat, she can suck up and down for an amazingly intense experience. This is one of the most arousing sex positions we’ve ever come across and it requires very little penis length to work its magic.
4. Strap-on
From Apple Watches to paper-thin laptops, it seems like small is the new big thing. And that holds true when it comes to sex, too. The average Johnson size is 5.2 inches when fully erect, but 10 percent of guys have smaller ones. That means that many sex positions and techniques may not work as well for them.
Fortunately, there are plenty of ways to enjoy penetrative sex with a smaller penis. Strap-on sex is one of them. It’s a harness with a dildo attached that you wear over your thong or panties. While it’s mainly associated with lesbian sex, it can be used in heterosexual relationships as well, says Annabelle Knight(opens in new window), a sex educator from sex toy shop Lovehoney.
Strap-ons can be made from simple panties with a dildo stitched into them to more elaborate corsets and bustiers that look almost like clothing. They’re also often used for people who don’t have a penis (like people transitioning into transgender identities) as a way to experience and give pleasure in the context of sex, she adds.
The most important thing to keep in mind when using strap-ons is that communication is key. Both partners should talk about what they’re wanting from the experience before it starts, she notes. And if something isn’t working, that should be communicated too.
