Many men find themselves frustrated after a boning session when they can’t seem to get their penis hard again. It happens due to a natural biological process called the refractory period.
It’s the time that passes between orgasm and ejaculation. This period can last a long time for some men. To help shorten it try some of these tips:
1. Practice kegels
Practicing Kegel exercises, which strengthen the muscles in your pelvic floor, can help you gain control over when you ejaculate. These exercises aren’t just for women; they can also help men prevent premature ejaculation and boost sexual stamina. All you have to do is squeeze your pelvic muscles like you are holding in urine and then relaxing them. The more you practice, the stronger the muscles will become. Some men who do Kegels have reported that they experience a more powerful sensation during orgasm and have better control over ejaculation.
When a man masturbates, the body’s natural chemistry creates a temporary erection by increasing blood flow to the penis. Eventually, the erection will lead to an orgasm and then he’ll ejaculate. After ejaculating, the erection will fade and it will be difficult to get another one. This period is known as the refractory period. This is normal and can happen after any number of orgasms.
It’s possible to overcome the refractory period by practicing sexual techniques that stimulate the penis, such as the spooning position, the crotch lift, or a cock ring. You can also use lube or massage your erogenous zones to increase the sensation and give you an edge. It’s best to use a lot of lube or an oil that won’t cause irritation to the skin on your penis.
2. Exercise
Men are notorious for feeling uninterested in sex after an orgasm. This is a completely normal part of the sexual response cycle and something that most everyone experiences at one point or another. The reason for this is that your body goes through a period called the refractory phase. This is when your penis can’t get an erection or experience another orgasm. This phase can last anywhere from a few minutes to several hours.
This is caused by the release of hormones in your body after ejaculation. These hormones include oxytocin and prolactin, which can make you lose interest in sex and may even prevent you from getting an erection at all. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to help your body overcome the refractory period and increase your chances of having round two.
One way to improve your chances of getting hard again is by exercising regularly. Exercises that improve blood flow to the penis, such as jogging and swimming, are especially helpful. You can also try taking some herbs or supplements that can boost your testosterone levels and reduce prolactin. For example, a study published on the American Society for Reproductive Medicine website found that taking 5 grams of mucuna pruriens seed powder daily for three months raised testosterone and lowered prolactin.
Other ways to help you stay hard after ejaculation are by avoiding too much alcohol and staying hydrated. Lastly, keeping your cholesterol in check by eating healthy and cutting out salt is another good idea.
3. Try a cock ring
A cock ring is a fun way to add some extra ooh-la-la to your sexual experience. They make your dick bigger and harder when erect, which can look and feel better for both partners. As long as your partner is comfortable with it, a cock ring can also be a great way to get intimate during foreplay (hand, mouth or oral sex).
Cock rings come in a wide variety of sizes. If you’re a newbie, try out a stretchy or rubber/soft plastic one first, then switch to something firmer as you get more used to it. They’re usually sold in sizes that range from an eight to an inch, but you can also find ones that are adjustable. Some even have snaps or velcro, which can help you figure out the right size by experimenting with different combinations.
Apply a small amount of water-based lube to the inside of your cock ring before wearing it. While you’re flaccid or semi-erect, gently place one testicle through the ring first and then your penis, making sure that the ring is positioned all the way behind your scrotum.
You can also use an improvised cock ring by placing the base ring of a condom over your dick. Just make sure that the condom and cock ring don’t touch during sex, as this can cause friction which could tear the condom or cause a leak.
4. Stay stimulated
A lot of people think that the refractory period lasts for hours after having an orgasm, but it doesn’t have to be this way. It can be shortened by using techniques to keep you stimulated until your erection is ready to come down again. It can also be shortened by following a healthy lifestyle, including drinking less alcohol and not smoking. This is because alcohol and nicotine constrict blood vessels, making it harder to get an erection.
For example, many men find that masturbating before sex helps to increase their arousal and shorten the refractory period. It’s also possible to train yourself to know the point in time when you’re about to have an orgasm. This can help you avoid ejaculating too soon, which isn’t a good idea for your partner.
Another technique is to use manual stimulation during sex, such as thrusting or anal rubbing. This can be very satisfying to both partners, and it can also delay orgasm and ejaculation. However, it’s important to remember that you’ll probably still lose your erection after a certain amount of time. So don’t compare yourself to dudes in sexy movies who are ready for round two of intercourse seconds after orgasming. That’s just not realistic for most guys. It might also be helpful to practice oral and anal stimulation, or try a variety of sex positions.
